Former president,Barack ObamaandMichelle Obamaalways look like relationship goals, but apparently that wasn’t always the case.

He admitted that he and Michelle have had their share of ups and downs in their marriage.

“‘God, Barack …

Michelle Obama and Barack Obama

When is it going to be enough?’

Before I could answer, she’d gone into the bedroom and closed the door.”

And after being elected, Barack said that things with his wife became even more strained at times.

Michelle Obama and Barack Obama

He confessed he felt an undercurrent of tension in their relationship that kept him awake at night.

He explained he looks at the situation now in its entirety.

“There were great joys in the White House,” he toldPeople.

He also said during the interview the toll a presidency takes on families is very real.

However, Barack toldPeoplethat luckilyhis girlsdid well with the experience of being raised in the White House.

“So that’s a big sigh of relief.”