We’ve all been there.
Just like that, all of the attraction is gone.
“You may be one of those people who genuinely forgets to reply to texts or Facebook messages.
However, your forgetfulness is no excuse for bad manners,” she said.
Even if the message is nothing urgent, your loved one will appreciate the quick response."
“Plus, it is important to show thanks to people in all areas of your life.
It is literally putting a wall up to someone who is trying to share their feelings or experiences.”
Lyon said this is one of the most harmful behaviors that he’s seen with couples.
“No one wants to feel second best.”
Erika Boissiere, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder ofThe Relationship Institute of San Franciscoagrees.
So put away your phone and listen to what your partner is saying.
“Dates should be fun, not an exercise in math.
She saw it is a sign he had a temper and would one day blow up at her.”
“Even worse than talking about exes is [complaining] about them,” Conlisk added.
Selfishness, arrogance, and bragging
Relationships are all about give and take.
Boissiere agrees and added that this selfishness can come up in conversations as well.
The person’s mind is clearly on just themselves, and this can be a major turn off."
“People like to feel reciprocity in a relationship,” she told me.
It could be you aren’t actually all that excited to spend time with the person to begin with.
According tocoach Lyon, confidence is in general the most attractive attribute for people.
“Things are assumed, confused, and up in the air.
This breeds hurt, stagnation, and divisiveness,” she noted.
A little deodorant can go a long way.
She told me that many of her clients have trouble with criticism.
Rappaport said that any advice or critique should be delivered in a loving, supportive way.
These clients find it very difficult to deal with these people in their lives.
“My clients can become so frustrated, they refuse to talk to the person under those conditions.”
“Many of these women come from backgrounds where the men in their lives constantly lied to them.
I didn’t think so, and neither do the experts.
So take a shower, roll on some deodorant, and get ready to be turnedon.
