You want to catch someone’s eye but you’re not sure what to do.
It can be difficult, therefore, to know how to act when you meet someone intriguing.
What’s too much?
What’s not enough?
As I’ve explained to my psychology students and clients, it truly varies from person to person.
Still, there are some common flirting fails that everyone should give a shot to avoid at all costs.
Pro tip: Keep it light and fun.
Stay away from joking about personal beliefs at all costs!
Are your jokes falling flat?
Do they seem indifferent during conversations on certain topics?
Are they less enthusiastic about certain types of restaurants?
During those earliest interactions, we may put aside our own preferences to make it make a good impression.
When it comes to picking a spot for coffee or lunch, offer a variety of options.
Lacking confidence
Let’s be honest flirting is intimidating!
Unfortunately,nothing is less sexythan someone who seems to be struggling with confidence.
How can you be alluring and enticing if you don’t believe in yourself?
Remember all of the reasons why you’re such a great catch and strut your stuff!
If you feel like a slob, your confidence will likely suffer!
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They will feel like the center of attention which is exactly how you want them to feel!
Pro tip: Put your phone on silent or leave it in your pocket to avoid temptation.
Consider doing this any time you spend time with your friends and family!
The truth of the matter is that the right person will be captivated by your charms without any gimmicks.
Avoid the temptation to pretend to be someone you are not.
I’ve seen it happen so many times among my students.
Take a cooking or art class.
You might meet new people to flirt with!
Looking desperate
Along with lacking confidence, seeming desperate is the ultimate turn-off.
Pro tip: Don’t be clingy and be sure to have plans of your own.
Then, patiently wait to see if they respond!
Pro tip: Don’t send them a text asking if they had a good time.
Don’t ask when you are going to see each other again.
Let them know you are interested and then give them space to figure out how they feel!
I’ve definitely heard my share of stories through my clients and students over the years!
It’s a fine art and, sometimes, our efforts can fall flat.
Besides, not everyone is going to like us and that’s okay!
When things go wrong, don’t be too hard on yourself.
Try your best to laugh it off and get right back into the game.
After all, even with flirting, practice makes perfect!
