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Everyone loves being the recipient of a compliment.
It just feels so great to feel appreciated, respected, and loved.
explainseHarmony’s Chief of Advice Jeannie Assimos.
But, not every guy will succeed.
If he does, let him know that you think he’s funny."
I feel safe (or loved, or seen) in your presence
According toDr.
It’s in our DNA.
So tell them you feel ____ in their presence.
The blank can be safe, seen, loved, protected.
Any feeling will suffice as long as its real.
Just don’t make stuff up.
It will ring as hollow and insult their emotional intelligence."
Compliment your connection as a couple and how great it makes you feel.
Men don’t want to feel like a project to be fixed.
So any compliments that show him your appreciation for who he is will always be a winner.
saysAnita Chlipala, a Chicago-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist.
This compliment highlights a unique quality that your significant other brings to the table.
Letting him know that you notice and adore him for it will make him feel awesome.
Because of you, I feel…
Barbra Russell, Licensed Professional Counselorand author ofYes!
Other examples she gives of specific compliments in this vain are “Because of you, I feel loved.
Because of you, I am a better me.”
Highlighting how this specific guy and relationship make you feel like a better person will make him feel amazing.
It’s a much more specific way to thank him for a thoughtful gesture.
So it means a lot when you say something wonderful about his family, friends, or coworkers."
So if you have an awesome double date with his friends, let him know.
If you think his sister is one of the smartest, funniest ladies you know, tell him.
I love how talented you are at your job
Authenticity is very important to men.Dr.
Paul Hokemeyerexplains, “Most men suffer from what is known as the impostor syndrome.
They feel they are just calling it in.
“Instead of directly complimenting them, ‘overheard compliments’ for men is a huge confidence booster.”
explainsJessica Elizabeth Opert, a relationship and dating coach based out of London, UK.
He often tells me, I really love hearing that.
Once I responded with ‘Oh dear, am I not saying it TO YOU enough?’
He said ‘nope, I don’t care about that.
Hearing you speak about me with such pride and love, means more to me.’
Men can onboard someone being proud of them much easier than direct compliments.”
She says that many clients in her practice echo her husband’s positive response to overheard compliments.
This lets your significant other know that you sing their praises even when they are not around.
It also lets others know how much they mean to you.
Try the 60 Second Blessing
Meygan and Casey Caston fromMarriage365are huge believers in the 60 Second Blessing.
They believe that in a relationship “it is important to compliment often.
Words are extremely powerful.”
It only takes two minutes a day and can have very positive effects on your relationship.
you might have fun with it and get creative by putting a note in their lunch.
says dating coachJessica Elizabeth Opert.
