Managing our own emotions can be tough enough.
Therefore, it can be extra challenging when our partner’s moods throw us for a loop.
Over time, I found myself giving the same advice over and over again.
Even if they say little to nothing, many of us have a tendency to take things personally.
Sometimes, people just get into a funk.
Worse yet, you could prevent a conversation about what’s really bothering your partner.
If you start feeling overwhelmed, annoyed, and argumentative, just take a short breather.
Hop in the shower, listen to music, go for a walk, or run an errand.
When you feel yourself getting sucked in to a bad mood, make the decision to choose happiness.
Allow yourself to be sympathetic toward your significant other without taking on whatever is bothering them.
It takes practice but it’s possible to maintain a healthy level of detachment while remaining supportive.
Keep your mood separate by taking ownership of your own feelings.
Ask them to explain what has made them upset and actually sit down and listen.
Make eye contact and nod understandingly, when appropriate, so that they know you are paying attention.
You might be surprised by what you learn.
Give your partner the attention they deserve.
Don’t lose your patience (or perspective!)
We all have moments like this so you might find it helpful to maintain a healthy amount of perspective.
Rather than internalize it, find a constructive way to share your feelings with your significant other.
Pro tip: Take some deep breaths and pick a calmer moment to share this insight with your partner.
If you are frustrated and angry, it won’t go over well.
If you have any, you may do the same and then let it go.
It’s likely that you both share some of the burden.
Do pay attention to triggers
Does your partner seem to react poorly in specific situations?
Do you notice a pattern emerging?
If so, talk to them about it in a loving and calm way.
They might be surprised by your observations!
Pro tip: This is a great time to look at your own triggers.
Are you fully aware of the things that can put you in a bad mood?
In these situations, personal and/or couples' therapy can be beneficial.
Pro tip: Don’t suffer longer than necessary.
There’s nothing wrong with needing outside support!
Be kind and patient during their lowest moments because you would want them to do the same for you.
See a movie, go out to their favorite restaurant, or give them a back rub.
These sweet gestures can help turn things around.
If your efforts fall short, give them some space to breathe and work through their difficult emotions.
It’s not always easy but that’s part of the give and take in a relationship.
At the end of the day, putting love first is the best way to go!
