Breaking up is messy business, whether you initiate the split or are dumped against your wishes.
Sometimes those feelings are part of the natural cycle of mourning the loss of love and of letting go.
I even revealed my own experience of regret in love.
The emotion is healthy and normal."
Names and certain details have been slightly altered for privacy purposes.
He was also totally unfaithful something that his bandmates revealed to me.
Those thoughts told me that I wasn’t really fully down with ending it.
It wasn’t necessarily an alert from the universe, telling me that I needed to reconsider my actions.
We actually got back together for six months."
Whether or not you value safeness and similarity in a relationship is a matter of preference.
In this case, they did reunite.
She explained, “He had this geek appeal that I love and we engaged in mild flirtation.
As the holidays got into full swing, we were at the same gatherings and bars.
So we hooked up.
It was nothing serious, since we were both heading back to college.
However, when summer arrived, Carrie ran into Adam again while back home.
She explained, “He still had the geek appeal, but had progressed to a whole new level.
I was kicking myself.
I should never have blown him off.”
And when something is outta sight, it’s also outta mind, too.
“It’s natural have second thoughts when you make one choice over another,” he said.
“It was magical in every way.
The literal and figurative distance became a problem.
It likely wasn’t going to be a match made in heaven,” she remembered.
To this day, I wonder what my life would be like if I had stuck it out.
Would we be married?
Would we have kids?
Dr. Burke commented that Jenna’s emotion cycle was incredibly healthy and she truly examined her motives and feelings.
Indeed, hindsight is 20/20.
When the dust settled, I thought I was being irrational.
In this case, the ultimate end result, which was the second breakup, was inevitable.
It’s clear that other problems asserted themselves and caused the permanent split.
Clearly, it can go either way in any pairing.
“What a jerk I was.
I questioned if I shouldn’t have indulged my ego.”
What she does remember is that it wasn’t a clean break.
“If it was the right thing to do, why couldn’t I fully walk away?
Trust me it wasn’t just about good sex, either.
It was about him.
It was him and his personality that kept pulling me back.”
“That draw was still there and it could be out of utility,” he explained.
“But there is something still there.
I’d ask, ‘What are you holding back?'”
It’s pretty obvious, though.
That’s also a pretty definitive sign that the spark remains and maybe the break needs to be reconsidered.
I was so close with this family and I continued to stay in touch with them.
He and I eventually got back together and got married.”
I struggled to do the things we used to do together.
How do you know if it’s right?
But there are also situations that spring up to tell you, “Hey!
You may want to rethink this.”
You just need to follow your heart, look deep into yourself and figure out what you need.
Believe your gut when assessing whether or not a relationship is truly right for you.
