Oh, my goodness.
That’s a really good question.
I would say that probably one thing that people don’t necessarily know for sure is howrealit is…
It’s so real.
I remember when we were shootingMarried At First Sight, I was a nightmare.
Every minute felt like we were filming.
So they captured everything.
It’s just very raw and real.
What you see is what you get.
I really wanted true love and marriage.
And anyway, so it’s very real.
I think that’s probably one question people ask all the time.
It’s just like, “Is it just for TV or is it real?”
WasMarried At First Sighta lot different from being onThe Bachelor?
Did you feel like that show waslessreal?
I mean, it’s obviously…
I never really got to know him that well, to be very honest.
And it’s so cool.
And I wish I could go back and just have fun with it because I took it very seriously.
I obviously was looking for a real relationship and I almost feel silly to say that out loud now.
I should just have fun.
Man, I should’ve been like the other girls and just had a good time.
So yeah, entirely different.
But both good experiences, I guess.
I learned an awful lot being onThe Bachelor.
So I mean, I can’t complain about it whatsoever.
Or to any of the girls.
I think it was [finally] in Panama… that I actually shared with one girl.
I don’t know who my father is.
To me, I was like, “Who would want to marry a girl like that?
Who wants to be in a relationship with all ofthatbaggage?”
That doesn’t mean that I’m a bad person and those aren’t circumstances that I chose.
I had no choice but to kind of fight to provide, really.
And I shouldn’t be ashamed and embarrassed.
And the kicker of it all was I remember I was on a train in Manhattan.
I was going downtown to do something.
And I was like, “Yeah.”
And I didn’t get recognized an awful lot.
And I was like, “Wow.”
I just never realized…
It just meant so much to me.
I can connect with that young girl and be a good role model, maybe."
I don’t know.
And the same thing goes for if you happen to be on welfare.
No one wants to be on welfare.
And it was always very, very embarrassing to my mom that she was on it.
And then of course I had to be on it when I had custody of my sisters.
So I was in school.
I was so embarrassed.
I didn’t want a soul to know.
I guess it just really taught me that it’s okay that you come from different circumstances than others.
And that they’re maybe less fortunate, but you’re still a good person.
Entirely different person because I was very open.
Well, I would give different advice for both shows.
So forThe Bachelor, I would be like, great if you have a connection.
That’d be awesome run with it and take a stab at nurture it.
But if not, just enjoy the moment.
I really didn’t enjoy it.
Obviously for some it was very serious and that’s evident, but maybe others aren’t.
So who knows what you’re going to get?
Just have a good time.
I wish I would have known that for myself forThe Bachelor.
But forMarried At First Sight, I would say have zero expectations.
So I would say the advice is entirely different for two different kinds of shows.
And also, then when you’re at your wedding day, don’t have expectations.
So he can’t be the one."
That would be my advice.
Jamie Otis' experiences as a new mom
Congratulations on your baby.
What was it like to have a baby at home in the middle of a pandemic in your house?
Oh, my goodness.
I mean, one word would bewild.
If I could give three words it would be magical and painful all at the same time.
It was every single one of those words, all mixed into one.
You changed the baby’s name from Hayes to Hendrix.
Yeah, so we really couldn’t decide on a name for a really long time.
I mean, we really could not figure out what his name was going to be.
Because I wanted something meaningful.
We wanted something cute, too.
And we wanted something that would have a nickname…
I mean it’s really hard naming a baby.
It’s the first thing you give your child that lasts them for their whole entire lives.
You just want it to be perfect for them.
And then we decided Hayes was the name.
We really liked it.
We called him Hayes.
We have a pillow with Hayes on it.
We have a plaque with Hayes on it.
And then he was born, and the minute I held him, I almost blurted out Hendrix.
And I was like, “Oh my goodness, that wasn’t the name we chose.”
And then later on my husband did call him Hendrix.
And I was like, “Oh my God, I almost called him Hendrix.”
I was like, “I can’t believe that.”
And then my husband took that as a sign, I guess.
Or I don’t know, I guess we just really connected with Hendrix.
And so he was instantly like, “It has to be Hendrix.”
I was like, “Well, wait a minute.
We can’t just change it to Hendrix.
We have this plaque, we have a pillow.
And we told everybody.
Everybody’s expecting Hayes.”
and he was like, “But he’ssucha Hendrix.
And I was like, “Are we sure we want to do this?
I’m not sure about this.”
And my husband, he was just dead set on it.
Like, “He’s a Hendrix.”
And I was like, “Okay.”
But we love that name.
And now I can’t imagine calling him, Hayes.
He’ssuch a Hendrix!It just fits him better, I guess.
So, no regrets with that whatsoever.
Now that you’re parents with babies and sleepless nights has your chemistry changed at all?
Then after I got pregnant, I was terrified to lose the baby.
So we really weren’t that intimate.
And to be very, very honest, it’s been six months since we’ve been intimate.
So obviously the chemistry changes, but the love is there for each other a hundred percent… And it’s just nice when you have a partner by your side.
So the chemistry obviously does change but the love is just…
It’s the love and support and the partnership is always there.
But when it comes down to feeling sexy after having a baby, that’s not there right now.
But it’s the love and support, so that’s nice.
Or would you actually want them to meet the way you and Doug met onMarried At First Sight?
Honestly, I would prefer that they meet someone naturally and organically and not need help.
I don’t care how they find love.
And I don’t care who it is that they love.
If they are in love with this person, then I want to be there to support them.
And that’s all that matters.
