How can a savvy, smart gal avoid getting into an unhappyrelationshipin the first place?
To get all the details, we spoke to the experts to get some insight.
Here are the people to avoid if you’re looking for a healthy relationship.
When it becomes more intense, however, it can be scary and possessive."
So, then, what’s the best way to avoid finding yourself with a jealous or controlling partner?
How can you best avoid winding up with someone like this?
Heller explains, “A major red flag with anarcissistis how adept they are at seduction.
Ultimately, if someone seems too good to be true, they probably are.
They are especially good at deploying tactics like escalating conflict and blaming other people.
However, Eddy noted, “These characteristics aren’t always easy to spot.”
“It can foster real resentment between partners.
Martyrs wear suffering like a badge of superiority.
No one has it worse than them.
They are sitting on a mountain of repressed rage.”
Why do martyrs do what they do?
They’re seeking fulfillment, connection, and a sense of importance.”
How can you avoid getting involved with a martyr?
Charmers
Aaah, charmers: confusing beyond all reason, and often equally destructive.
Charm especially superficial charm can be used to mask dark, dangerous traits like narcissism and even psychopathy.
AsHellertold me, “the charmer uses veiled contrivance to entice their target into satisfying his/her agendas.
People who are cloaked in charm conceal their vulnerability and awkwardness.”
What differentiates normal, everyday charm from the kind that should set off alarms?
As Heller also told me, “Charm used to manipulate is intimidating and passively aggressive.
Again, if someone seems too good to be true, they probably are.
