Here are some of the most common problems couples face but don’t necessarily talk about.
to figure it out for themselves.
When they don’t, this of course, makes you even more mad.
“Couples are not great at talking about issues that really matter to them,” explained Hope.
“People keep storage bins and boxes, and tuck things away hoping they will disappear.
“Good old fashioned sitting down and talking eye to eye can heal many problems.”
Life coachNathan Whitsonsays that this is a natural overflow of weak communication within our relationships.
“When this happens, we fight.
Rarely is it done in a helpful or fair manner.”
Instead, he says, we speak rashly and with an off-putting tone.
“Now you are fighting about the unresolved issue and the one that’s happening right now .
it goes on and on until someone gets overwhelmed and walks away.”
Fast-forward several years and too often the excitement has faded, leaving a monotonous coexistence in its place.
This is a recipe for disaster .
we drift slowly apart and wonder where it all went wrong.”
this often leads to chronic disconnection which becomes a big problem in relationships."
“ensure to make time to go on date nights and celebrate special occasions,” she said.
“Just maketimefor each other and double-check it’s well spent!”
Money
Life today is so stressful when it comes to money and making ends meet.
Throw a relationship into the mix and it becomes even more complicated.
“So many women are shut down and don’t know what their partners have.
There is no fine clear line of how it works and so resentments build.”
These stigmas include feelings of guilt and failure."
To avoid conflict, Hope suggests learning how your partner feels about money early on.
Trust
“Why is he being so secretive with the credit card statement?”
“Who is she texting all the time?”
“Why does he have to leave the room to have that phone conversation?”
“Why doesn’t she want to be friends with me on Facebook?”
“The list goes on and on,” he explained.
Derichs adds that trust is a key component to every successful relationship.
A solid relationship must be built on trust.
Authenticity on both parties is the secret key to happiness."
“Trust and respect are the foundation in which a healthy relationship sits upon.”
Savitt agrees, saying that losing respect for one another is a common problem that can ruin a relationship.
“We can look down on them and be dismissive of them.
They no longer have the adventurism or energy that fueled their sex lives in their younger days.”
When sparks fizzle out between the sheets, it can cause other issues, as well, said Savitt.
“Intimacy can mean many things.
The result can be lashing out, fighting, misery, and in some cases, infidelity.”
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Blaming
Let’s face it.
No onereallylikes to admit when they’re wrong.
This is the common ‘he did this’ or ‘she did that’," explained Hope.
“Most therapies begin with these sayings, and it is not about the other person.
You never get to be a victim in a relationship.
In spiritual law, we are all responsible for ourselves and are the creator of our own reality.”
The bottom line: own up to your stuff.
You partner will respect you for it.
Maintaining relationship bliss
It’s no secret that relationships are a lot of work.
They take trust, patience, compromise, and a whole slew of life skills.
Hope added, “We must become what we wish to find, so become your list.
Look within and quit using the relationship as an excuse to stop living your dreams.
Go into the relationship as an individual and stay that way.
This is the secret to love.”
