There is some truth to the old adage “there is no perfect time to have a baby.”
But there are irrefutably times that are more right than others.
I spoke with some experts to get their thoughts on what people should consider before becoming parents.
“Making sure both are on board is essential,” she said.
And ultimately the baby will pay the price for the pregnancy if one partner isn’t fully committed.
Babies bring on an entire new host of challenges.
There’s just no room for resentment when children are involved.
Single parents aren’t off the hook, either.
I asked Bahar what people need to think about career-wise when it comes to parenthood.
She said to set and focus on realistic goals.
“Accept that baby is now in control and the boss,” she said.
Kids get sick and emergencies can happen.
It’s important to know where your company stands on your work-life balance.
Check with your boss aboutmaternity and paternity leave.
Think about who will take care of your child if you have to travel for work.
Ask about telecommute options for times when you might have to be home with a sick toddler.
Hand, foot and mouth disease does not discriminate, and neither should your workplace.
So ensure your career is conducive to kids before they get here.
She had intended to breastfeed, which is virtually free.
The formula alone cost her more than $1,400 over the course of six months.
And they just don’t offer classes on that.
A baby will suck the sleep out of your life like some sort of adorable human torture equipment.
Newborn life brings awhole new level of sleep deprivation to the game.
I askeddoctor of psychology Raychel Muenkewhat effect sleep deprivation can have on a new parent.
“The sleep deprivation is real,” she said.
When people are sleep deprived, they are more likely to negatively react to seemingly neutral situations.
Flipping out when your partner asks, “Can you help with the dishes?”
can take a serious toll on the relationship.
Sleeping in on weekends will only work if you have a willing partner or you hire a nanny.
Andnight nannies are definitely a thing.
Muenke said it’s important to recognize that sleep deprivation is normal, but very real.
Asking for help from her partner and setting up a support system was her saving grace.
She advises people to do their research, do their best, and to remain flexible.
“Plan A is not going to always work,” she said.
“I have needed plans C, Q, and Z sometimes with my children.”
“It’s one thing to register and buy cute onesies,” she said.
“And another to really be ready to be a parent.”
Those responsibilities fall on the parents.
They have to take the initiative to plan as best as they can for the big curve balls.
Do you have an optimal luteal phase to support a pregnancy?
Knowing your body well is an important step in preparation to have a baby.
Masini said the desire to become a parent also has to align with your ability to parent.
It goes along with the idea of putting on your oxygen mask in an airplane emergency before assisting others.
Human infants are some of the mostdependent newborns in the animal kingdom.
And self care will change throughout the child’s life.
It’s one thing to be forced to put someone else’s needs first.
It’s another to choose to.
Are you ready?
Ultimately, there is no “perfect time” to have a baby.
Parenting is messy, and it adds a new level of chaos to a once orderly existence.
It’s an amazing journey that changes your entire world.
The only question is: are you ready?
