Being single can suck sometimes.
Also, you are often the recipient of unsolicited advice.
Della Casa said to me.
Grumble, grumble, grumble.
Here are things that single people like but may not be quite so vocal about.
“When you are single, you get to be selfish and self-centered,” Hope said to me.
When you are single, you’re free to think of No.
That’s hard to admit, because selfishness is [considered] a terrible thing in our world."
Additionally, you could really and truly love someone else once you’ve learned to love yourself.
That’s a lesson you pick up by being selfish.
Proceed to sing Whitney Houston’s “The Greatest Love of All” at the top of your lungs.
It’s basically the freedom to have your own routine.
Being coupled often means some commitment to emotional labor that may never be acknowledged, which is exhausting."
“Everyone complains about Bumble and Tinder, but they all stay on it,” she revealed.
It’s more than just a tool to assist them in finding “the one.”
It’s basically Darwinian enjoying the thrill of the chase without having an endgame.
“You don’t have to check in with anyone…for anything,“Della Casa said.
It really frees the single person up to do whatever they yo without waiting for someone else’s approval.
“Want to take an impromptu trip to Australia?
Dying to kiss the hot guy or girl across the bar?
Leave your apartment in disarray?
It’s no one’s business.”
Not having to deal with all of that noise is incredibly freeing.
“When we think about marriage, it’s all about togetherness,” Young explained to me.
“We love the idea of sleeping together every night and having someone to come home to.
Then, reality sinks in.
What if he leaves his jacket in the living room?
We start to feel suffocated and are thus reminded of just how peaceful singleness can be.
Young said committed people can be left thinking, “Dinner every night?
Clothes washed and ironed?
Helping you find your favorite tie?
I don’t know about that.”
Your heart is safer
You know the cliches.
No pain, no gain.
Big risks lead to big rewards.
Relationships always present a risk to be hurt, disappointed, or brokenhearted.
That’s life and love.
Their walls have been erected and there is a fear of letting anyone else in.
It’s important that they take time to do the work and heal.”
Doing the work is truly what is essential.
And that takes time, dedication, and effort.
Imagine not doing what everybody is doing?
Wow, such a thought and so frightening.”
It’s like walking a tightrope without a net.
It’s equally terrifying and thrilling.
But being single doesn’t mean you are lonely or can’t find a mate.
Flying solo is a totally worthwhile and intentional lifestyle choice, too.
