The truth is that disagreements will happen and are normal.
The reality is that each of us bring our own issues, attitudes, and opinions to a relationship.
The same is true of your partner.
The goal is to find a middle ground while honoring the separate and unique journeys that brought you together.
“You’re being silly”
We’ve all been there.
Our partner is freaking out about something that we think is trivial.
There are several reasons for this.
First, and most important reason: you want your partner to feel heard.
There’s nothing worse than letting your guard down only to have someone say you are overreacting.
Instead, have a go at find something you could agree with and build from there.
Second, you might realize that what they are saying isn’t a minor issue.
Perhaps, something from their past makes their current issue more significant.
You don’t know everything about your partner, so be sensitive to their triggers.
Third, shouldn’t we all strive to feel empathy for others?
It will go a lot further towards being happy.
or “you always criticize me!”
Think of a time when your partner said sometime similar to you.
Did it feel fair and rational, or did it just discourage you from trying in the future?
It leaves little room for discussion.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Just those two little words.
You almost always have a choice when it comes to how you’ve treated your partner.
Be proactive about diffusing tension before things blow up.
If you choose happiness, you may have to learn to graciously apologize from time to time.
It’s a waste of time.
They will be hurt and you will feel guilty.
Avoid this at all costs.
Find a better way to express your anger and frustration.
Don’t hurt them by bringing up your ex without a very good reason.
This is particularly true if your partner feels insecure or threatened by your past relationships.
Leave your past in the past and focus on the person who is currently in your life.
And that’s extremely discouraging.
In fact, silent treatment can be extremely toxic and is the ultimate sign of a breakdown in communication.
This is particularly true when silence is used as a punishment.
It’s not okay to refuse to speak to our partner for extended periods of time.
If one person refuses to even talk to the other, how can anything ever be resolved, right?
