Have you ever wondered why dating is so hard?
We get it, dating can be time consuming.
That’s why dating apps like Tinder were created.
Sounds great… in theory!
Are you starting to feel miserable about yourself, and dating all together?
It’s not you, it’s Tinder.
If you swipe right for him, and he swipes right for you, you guys are a match!
From there, you’re free to get to know one another and hopefully meet in person.
What could be wrong with that?
Some men are using Tinder like a game, and that makes finding a real connection with someone unlikely.
How could it not?
People are choosing whether to swipe right or left, based solely off your pictures.
Yes, you include some facts about yourself, but the image is the first thing someone sees.
Tinder can make you feel a weird sense of rejection that’s coming from strangers online.
Instant validation
You see a guy you like on Tinder and you swipe right.
Minutes later your phone shows that you two are a match.
You’re smiling from ear to ear because all of a sudden, you feel better about yourself.
A complete stranger swiped right on your picture, and that makes you feel great.
What if you two weren’t a match?
You’d feel slightly bad about yourself, right?
Your self-worth shouldn’t be determined by anyone but YOU!
It gives you low self-esteem
Are you paying more attention to your physical appearance?
On Tinder, you’re literally being evaluated based off your pictures!
You want to look as perfect as possible so that draw in matches.
It’s fine to change for yourself, but don’t feel pressured to change for other people.
Obsessing and constantly worrying about what you look like is doing more harm than good.
First dates don’t always happen
So you’ve matched with someone on Tinder… now what?
There are only three options.
It turns out that the third option is most likely.
Both men and women are often staying pretty quiet once they have a match.
Menaren’t always messagingfirst and women aren’t either what’s the point then?
You’re on Tinder to make a connection with someone, not to just stare at all your matches.
Men are swiping right for anyone they see, but that’s not the case for women.
Now, this could be a good or bad thing, depending on how you look at it.
It’s good that women are being selective, but are they taking too much time studying the physical?
His hair, eyes, teeth, and so on.
Thanks to fancy filters, people can alter the way they look in pictures.
There’s a good chance your picture on Tinder has a filter on it, right?
It’s nothing to be ashamed of, everyone does it.
Having said that, Tinder is known for being a very popular app for one-night stands.
“There is no dating.
“They’re rare.
[Hooking up] is a lot easier.
No one gets hurtwell, not on the surface.”
We’re not trying to convince you to deactivate your account, just be aware of what you want.
Are you searching for your soulmate?
You might want to consider finding another platform.
My experience
My experience with Tinder wasn’t a good one.
Most of the messages I got revolved around my physical appearance.
Looks aren’t the most important thing.
I need a dating app that helps achieve that emotional connection, instead of a purely physical one.
And I think that’s what a lot of women want, too.
