It can be scary, frankly.
Actually, it has more to do withlistening.
And at the end of the day, that’s what everyone is searching for.
Take an interest in them, their lives, and the things that they find important.
“Paradoxically, they think you are more interesting when you show an interest in them.”
Ask open-ended questions
Open-ended questions require more than just a simple yes or no answer.
These types of inquiries facilitate conversation, while fixed questions limit engagement.
That’s how you’ll know which way of communicating is most likely to be successful.
Offer sincere compliments
Compliments are key because people like to hear how great you think they are.
That being said, if you’re able to’t deliver them with sincerity, skip them.
“People can see through it when you’re being phony.
Find something you genuinely like about the other person and let them know,” says Truong.
Agree with them
Everyone likes to hear that they’re right and other people admit it.
“Find something that you agree with and express it,” Truong says.
Agreements help form connections, which is really what you’re after.
Be authentic
Be wary of being too bubblegum when interacting with others.
Walfish says that people can tell when you’re being insincere or fake.
Don’t give a shot to be too charming.
You don’t have to take care of the person, even if they are having a difficult time.
You don’t have to relate your story that is similar to what is being said.
You don’t have to give advice."
Don’t focus so much on what you think you’re going to have to say next.
Focus on really hearing what the person is saying.
Get keyed in to the conversation.
Sometimes, all the other person needs is to talk something out, themselves.
They don’t need your opinion, advice, or anything else.
And they’lldefinitelymake conversation a breeze with anyone.
