If you’ve found it in yourself to do that, congratulations you should already be proud of yourself.
And so we persist in the pursuit of finding a partner that complements us and makes us happy.
Here are some flawless best practices for attracting the partner you want.
And it can be fun!
That does not mean tackling them and confessing your feelings.
Laugh at their jokes and compliment them.
Let them know you like them and find them attractive.
If you don’t, you’ll wind up with regret and anxiety.
So how does one go about the business of getting interesting?
Well, you get to work.
If nothing else, you’ll slay as a well-traveled, well-read bachelorette!
Have a relationship vision
It’s important to know exactly what you want in a partner!
And while that sounds like a simple concept, it can be a bit more dimensional.
Flesh out and give substance to the qualities you want in your potential partner and relationship.
Without one, you arereactingto the strong emotions of the moment and not choosing what yourhead and heartwant."
Imagine you’re out on a date, and it seems to be going really well.
Stick to your vision and be true to you, not the moment.
Let your relationship vision and self-knowledge be the voice of reason.
This is will solidify your wishes and wants and keep you on the right track to meeting someone special.
Now, cultivate and hone those traits within yourself.
Be the person you are looking for, for bring him/her into your life."
If you’re looking for someone who has a good job, have one.
If you’re looking for someone who is thoughtful and caring, be thoughtful and caring.
I find that magic happens when those two pieces align."
Figure out who you are.
Find what makes and keeps you happy and healthy, and then, put your best foot forward.
Polish those social skills
Some super basic but actually really vital advice: cultivate good manners.
Etiquette expert Masini says, “People are attracted to those with social skills.
When you see someone who’s cute, that’s one thing.
That last part is true for women as well!
It goes a long way.
Be patient
People always say that the right person will show up when you least expect it.
Psychologist Martinez tells me, “Patience is key.
I find that when people get impatient with this process, they’re in a scarcity mindset.
No one makes good choices when they operate from this mindset.
It’s an emotional block that needs to be successfully resolved, to attract a partner.
So yes, you are enough.
There are enough people out there.
And there’s enough time, too.
Get ready
Most of us have a few messes in our romantic past.
Ask yourself the right questions to assess what you’re gonna wanna sort.
Counselor Derichs suggests, “Be ready.
Have you dealt with your exes?
Have you learned what youdon’twant to take into your next relationship?
What strengths and weaknesses do you bring with you into your next relationship?
How about learning to trust and to forgive?
You take ‘you’ with you into your next relationship.
Be true
This one sounds simple, but can be a little rough to master.
If you want to attract a partner you really desire, you’ve got to be yourself.
This will always come back and bite you in the end.
Over time, the truths of each person come out and this can cause relationship turmoil.
Love truly starts with self-love.
This makes those parts about you much easier to love from someone else’s perspective.”
Don’t spend your energy trying to hide your imperfections, or pretend you’ve never made mistakes.
And don’t treat yourself like something that can be Photoshopped.
Someone whoembraces their flawsand owns their quirks can be really appealing to the right person.
You’ve got to be realistic.
Weks tells me, “You attract what you are.
You want someone financially sound?
Where do you measure up?
This allows the client to explore the negative traits she is willing to accept and live with.
If you don’t, you could easily miss out.
By following this advice, you’re doing your best to set yourself up for romantic success.
So get out there and charm the pants off of somebody!
